Open Diary : FRIENDSHIP

What is love?

This was asked in Church the other day, many had answers, but that was not what the elder was looking for. He wanted to know the true meaning of love. I said love was fair and love was just. He told me that to some extend I was right but I need to explain.

Love to me is fair and just, fair because where love exist there should be no cheating, no selfishness. Everything should be divided accordingly, shared equally.

Love is Just because, where justice resides there is fairness. What you want to be done for you, you do the same for love. And what you would hate to be done to you, you refrain from doing that to love. 

What then Is Love?

My favourite definition of what love is, is by an author name Louis de Bernière 

"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident." 

This is Romantic Love, I am talking about love in general, more specifically between friends. 

If you love a friend, you help them, you lend a hand when they are in need. A shoulder to cry on when they are sad. You encourage them when the loose confident, and most importantly, like the 32C cups I wear, you always support them when they need you to. Being a friend is honesty, If your friend is making a mistake, you tell them, its up to them to listen to you. But when they are embarking on a direction in their life where they need support, your duty as a friend is to do just that.

I recently had an occurrence where I needed friends and out of the few good friends I have, I can honestly none of them was there for me. The friends you would not generally count on, where the ones who had me. That goes to show about the quote "love your enemies just incase your friends turn out to be bastards" lol a bit harsh but true. The ones I did not in a million year expect where there for me, and you know what made it great. I did not have to ask them.

I originally thought there was no point having such friends in my life, but then I realised that, I was in no position to hold a grudge on people. Just like me they are human beings. We all make mistakes. In life you rarely get the chance to see peoples true colours and when you do see them, make sure you keep a good picture of it at the back of your mind, so that you don't make the mistake of expecting something from them you will never get, like genuine support.

x

Diary Of A Shallow Black Girl

what does friendship mean to you?